It’s My Wedding - Shut Up Mother!!

mother-of-bride.jpgWhat is it with Mothers when it comes to your wedding, why does an otherwise ‘normal’ Mum suddenly turn into a complete nightmare the moment you announce that you are getting married?

If you are a Mother, and one of your offspring is getting married, remember that your role is to be the SAS.

SAS you are asking, what does that mean? Well, I will start with a few things it doesn’t mean.

  1. We don’t mean that you have to parachute into the dress shop via the plate glass window before ripping to shreds your Daughters chosen dress with you teeth before proudly announcing that you have saved the day and found her the perfect dress from another shop.
  2. We also don’t mean that you have to use a time-delay explosive to blow up the Rolls Royce chosen to deliver the bride to the church before once again saving the day with Uncle Toms Volvo Estate which, you proclaim, looks lovely with a wash and a red ribbon tied to the aerial.
  3. Nor should you phone tap your daughters phone to save her the time of explaining the plans so far when you go round for Sunday lunch.
  4. Obtaining the guest list by hacking your daughters PC then systematically sending anonymous threats informing all the friends and family from the ‘other side’ to make an excuse for not attending so that you can invite Aunty Dot (and her bingo friends), who last saw your daughter when she was 3 months old, in their place, is also a big no-no.

SAS simply means a) Smile, b) Advise (when asked), c) Support

If you do that your daughter is much more likely to be open with her plans and get you involved - this way you will both enjoy the experience.

Employ any of the tactics above, or generally interfere and try to impose your will and the end result will be your daughter shutting you out bit by bit - you will end up less involved and at logger heads - your relationship may never fully recover.

For the record, my Mum was great and nothing like the above (just in case you are reading Mum…)

Author - David

April 29, 2008 | Filed Under Rants 

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